What Is The Meaning Of Labels

Have you ever described someone in just one word or phrase?   I have often wondered why people find it so easy to describe someone that way.  What is the meaning of labels anyway?  Why do we feel it necessary to take one word or phrase to describe someone’s entire being that way?  Is that all a person is?

 

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It doesn’t matter whether you are talking about a friend, family member or someone that you know.  This practice of describing someone with a label is quite common.

For me personally, I have been described in just one word, my entire life.  This is the reason that I wanted to talk about what it feels like to be labeled and why I think people feel the need to do it.

Labels

What really is a label?  Well a label, is defined in the dictionary as:

a classifying phrase or name applied to a person or thing, especially one that is inaccurate or restrictive”.

Hmm, I find that interesting? It says that a label inaccurately or restrictively describes a person.

So, if it is not accurate, then why do people constantly still describe people with labels this way?

Sometimes I think it just boils down to ignorance and that it is just much easier than actually knowing anything more about that person.  I call it a SNAP judgment or lack of the wear with all to actually get to know them better!

What about labeling someone when you do know them. Why do they still feel the need to describe them this way. What is the point of the label than?

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Examples of labels

We are taught at young age, that it is not polite to look at someone and assume we can describe them just by the way they look.  That would be describing someone using a label.

For example, a girl like me, who is often described as a Tomboy, simply because of how I wear my hair, or the clothes I choose to wear.  That is a label that is easily given to girls that are a tad boyish.  Again this is using a label to describe someone.

Now using that example, most people would think that it is not a big deal to do that to someone, but I disagree.

What about other labels, like when people find out I am GAY?

You would be astonished how many times people have done this to me. I can’t count the number of times that I am just described as “GAY”.

Oh, that’s Cory, and she is gay!

They don’t say, she is nice, fun, or super friendly. NOPE,  just that I am gay.

Do you think it is OK to label someone because of their sexual orientation?

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I sure don’t!

There are many ways that people can use one word or phrase to label someone.

Things like:

  • Appearance – Tomboy
  • Sexual orientation – Gay
  • Job – Labourer
  • Financial status – Poor
  • Ethnicity – White, Native, Black, Chinese
  • Work ethic – Lazy, useless
  • Describing someone’s personality – Difficult, rude

No matter what type of label you use to describe someone, it is truly short-sighted and in my opinion a way of discriminating against them.  Even though we aren’t meant to actually hear it firsthand, eventually of course we do hear about it.

 

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I know that it isn’t the same as using an inappropriate slur to describe someone, but it is still not giving a person the opportunity for you to see them for more than just the word or phrase you are using.

Why stay clear of labels

The one thing about being labeled is that most of the time you don’t know that people are actually describing you that way.  You are in the dark about the whole idea.  Nobody wants to think that people are talking behind your  back, but the reality is that it happens all the time.

Kids as we know can be cruel and mean, but when you get older and find out that you are still being defined by a certain word or phrase, it can be hard to believe.

Just because people are adults and are older, the idea that this doesn’t happen is a big misconception.  I have seen first-hand how people talk about other people.  Just like I am sure most of you have.

 

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I did know that people called me a Tomboy when I was young simply because the kids would say it right to my face. When I got older and found out that now I was being labeled as the token gay girl, I was a totally shocked.

Think about how you would feel if you were described, introduced, or talked about simply because there is one part of your life that makes people uncomfortable.

YES…. I said it! UNCOMFORTABLE!

I honestly believe that people label people simply because they find that description something, they aren’t comfortable with.

That is one idea, but there is also the need to still be part of the cool kids club.

For example, the theory that having a “gay friend, or family member” somehow makes you relevant or special.  It is meant to draw attention to how you are feeling and truly has nothing to do with how you are making that person feel.

I have often said that everyone should have 1 gay person in their immediate family, or extended family, just to get a peek into how hard it truly is.  It always seems to me that you think it is a bit of a prop and until it directly affects you, it is just not totally understood.

Just like everyone else, we have feelings and the fact that being gay isn’t a choice, makes it extremely offensive and hurtful to label people that way.

Whatever the label is!

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My gay label

I have my own completely selfish reasons for writing this post and it really boils down to my own experiences being labeled.

As I said, I have been labeled my entire life.  The thing is though, that my label that people have given me changed from Tomboy to Gay.

Growing up until I was about 19 or so, I was always called a Tomboy.  The label changed when I started sharing my truth about being “Gay”!

I think I deserve more than that.  It is not like it has just been friends or acquaintances because it hasn’t.  It has even been in my family. YUP!!

Family members in my extended family have described me as: “Oh Cory, that’s my cousin and she is gay”!  Explain to me why that is necessary.  Do I go around saying oh that is my cousin, and did you know she is straight? There is just no need or place for it.

Being defined like this is extremely hurtful and can profoundly affect your self-confidence.  I know for me personally just being defined as Cory the gay girl has had a huge impact on me.  I have always been a strong, stubborn, and independent person that has always tried to be true to myself, no matter the personal cost.

But hearing people talk or describe me to someone else by using my sexual orientation as the first thing you say about me, truly GUTS ME!  Why is it the second that you come out as gay, your identity in other people’s eyes changes. For 20 years of my life, I was just a girl like any other.  Then BOOM!!

Somehow, that all changed. I just don’t understand it. Why do I now deserve to be labeled just by that?

 

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I remember when I was at work one night and working with another guy.  It was just me and him.   He was a nice enough guy, but we got talking and he said to me, “Do you watch the Sopranos”?  I said absolutely, I love that show. He asked me who my favourite character was on the show, and I said “Tony Soprano”.  He then looks right at me and says that isn’t what I heard.  At first I didn’t know where he was going with this, but then he says, I hear your favourite character is “Big Pussy”!

WOW my face just hit the floor!  I didn’t even know what to say at that point.  All I know was, I was completely caught off guard and for the rest of the night, I was just sick about it.

 

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The one thing I have personally found is that men are far more fascinated about me being gay than other women are.

As an example, someone I know or am related to may seem fine about who I am, but as soon as they introduce me to their friends the guys think that talking about it all the time is something that I wanted to do.  They think that poking fun about it and making light of it is somehow OK with me.

Of course, I don’t want to stand on my soap box and say enough already, because that somehow makes it seem like I am bringing up the topic and making a big deal about it.

YES, I want to do that, but in that group of people, doing that just seemed like it would have made it worse.

Plus, I have always been that girl that gets along well with men and boys, so fitting in has always been important to me.  All of a sudden if I had said something, I would be considered the one that is making a bigger deal about it.  It is truly a tough scenario to be put in.

I will say that this type of situation is tad amount to walking in with toilet paper stuck in your pants, or whatever the most uncomfortable thing you can think of is.

WHY WHY WHY do people that I know, and love think that I want to talk about what I do behind closed doors. NOT ME!!

So, what is the meaning of labels?

Well the morale of this story is think before you speak and for god’s sake just love me!  I am a kind, loving and good person.  I absolutely don’t deserve to have a ridiculous label put on me and neither does anyone else, no matter what the label is.

I would love to hear your experiences with labels. Please drop me a comment below.

 

4 thoughts on “What Is The Meaning Of Labels”

  1. Thank you for sharing your story and experiences with us Cory. I’m sorry that you’ve had a lot of negative experiences with labels in the past. I honestly think we all have. I was also described through most of my adolescence as a tomboy, as well as a geek, a nerd, or even weird.

    I do agree that a lot of the time, unnecessary labeling can have negative connotations and being incredibly harmful. But, I also think that labels can be a good thing as well. Mostly when everyone involved is aware of the label and consents to it’s use. 

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    • Hi Rachel

      I am sorry to hear that you have also had similar experiences to myself.  As I said in my youth, it never really bothered me that I was called a Tomboy, because simply I was. LOL!

      I think it got more difficult as I got older because I thought that everyone is so different, why do I need to be described using a label.

      Sometimes labels are OK, but I think just remembering what we are saying to each other before we say it can make a huge difference.

      Thank you so much for sharing your own experiences with me, I really appreciate your honesty.

      Take care

      Cory

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  2. Cory, I appreciate your thoughts about labels. Your words made me think deeply about how I have labeled others and how I have been labeled in my life. I can feel how frustrating and painful some of your experiences have been. The conversation with your coworker about the Sopranos made me furious!! How could he say that to you?

    I have been labeled at times and it is always hurtful, even when others try to make it humorous. It is not funny, abusive words can hurt more than physical abuse, because they stay with us for years unless we talk those things out with someone we trust. 

    That’s what I love about what you are saying here, let’s just see each other for ALL the things we are, not just one category. That is so narrow-minded, but so common if we don’t seek to understand each other. We all need to understand each other more deeply. Then we can drop the lables.

    Thank you for teaching me and being so vulnerable.

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    • Hi Garin,

      It is always exciting to know that my posts that are so personal to me, actually resonate with people and make them think.  That is the entire reason why I wanted to continue to share my own personal journey.  By bringing up issues and things that I have dealt with in my life, my hope is to just have people think a bit more.

      Sometimes I think that people just don’t realize how hurtful labels can really be to people.  The year is 2020, and aren’t we all just suppose to be inclusive and respectful to each other.

      Thank you so much for warm and kind comments.  They truly make all the difference to me. 

      Take care

      Cory

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